09 Dec 2015

Social Media and Divorce

Every morning, as I drink my morning cup of coffee, I scroll through my Facebook news feed, and it does not take me long before I come across a “friend’s” post that causes me to shake my head, and think “Why would they post that?” In today’s social media savvy world, people are often quick to send out a tweet, update their Facebook status, or post an item without thinking first. Maybe I think this way because I am a divorce attorney, but I cringe when I read some of these posts. If you are going through a contentious divorce, about to go through a divorce or just finalized your divorce, or you and your spouse are engaged in a heated custody battle, please heed this simple advice:

a) THINK BEFORE YOU POST: Before you hit the post or tweet button, think to yourself: if this post is printed out and introduced as evidence in my divorce or custody matter, how does it reflect upon me? Does it show poor parental judgment? Does it show immaturity? Will it be used against me in Court? Would my spouse show it to my children? For example, posting about your late night out drinking wine might not be smart to discuss with a custody matter pending and children are involved. Hey, Mommies, everyone likes a good glass of wine once in a while, but during your divorce is not the time to post about it.

b) DON’T DISCUSS YOUR LITIGATION OR BADMOUTH THE JUDGE: I find litigants sometime feel compelled to argue their case in the court of public opinion. This is never a good idea. Private litigation should be kept private. You may feel a desire to find sympathy from your friends who have gotten divorced before you, but it is never wise to say a bad thing about the person who can decide where your children will primarily reside. Any negative comment will get back to the judge. It will end up in your spouse’s attorney’s hands and they will happily show it to the Court.

c) DON’T BADMOUTH YOUR SPOUSE OR EX-SPOUSE: Sometime litigants want to discuss their dislike or distrust of their spouses online. We do this with our friends, face to face. Now, with the advent of Facebook and Twitter, do people want their “friends” to join them in the bashing to make them feel better? Do the comments or tweets help someone sleep better at night? No. And again, remember, anything you post will be printed and end up attached to your spouse’s custody application. Disparaging the other party is always frowned upon in any divorce, especially in a contested custody matter.

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